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Many of the elders we talked with in the Legacy Project had been married for 30, 40, 50 or more years. Here are their three top lessons. And more than ever, marriage is seen as threatened.
Over the past half century, rates of marriage have fallen, people are waiting longer to get married, and divorce rates have increased, leading to the oft-cited statistic that around half of all U. There's a flip side to these sobering statistics, however.
Marriage is still the ideal for most people in American society. In surveys of high school seniors, fewer than 10 percent say they do not expect to marry.
Ultimately, 90 percent of Americans will wind up tying the knot.
So here we have a paradox. Most people want to get married and there is considerable research evidence that marriage has a wide range of benefits. But too often, the joy that accompanies the wedding celebration turns sour, and nearly half of couples who stand at the altar in hopeful excitement find themselves starting over after the trauma of divorce.
In our surveys of the life wisdom of the oldest Americans, I was particularly interested in their advice about finding a life partner and staying married. Others had experienced disastrous marriages - but offered advice for how younger people can avoid the same fiascoes. Here are their three top and somewhat surprising lessons: Marry Someone a Lot Like You I asked hundreds of elders what is most important for a long and happy marriage and their advice was just about unanimous: Opposites may attract, but they don't make for great and lasting marriages.
Based on their long experiences both in and out of love relationships, their first lesson is this: You are much more likely to have a satisfying marriage for a lifetime when you and your mate are fundamentally similar.
And the most important thing to look for is similarity in your core values. Take Emma Sylvester, who at 87 has been married for 58 years.
As she put it with a smile, "It's quite an achievement. In other words, if you're a free spender, marry somebody who understands that. If you're frugal, you need to marry somebody who understands that, because money is one of the stumbling blocks in marriages.
And fortunately we had the same values on most things. Because of this, we really didn't argue. And we really didn't agonize over things. We came to our decisions by just realizing that we had usually the same goals.
We both believed in education.
Death, it seems, is no longer Shakespeare’s undiscovered country, the one “from whose bourn no traveller returns.” Not according to contemporary bestseller lists. Dreams and visions of the. All descriptions of artwork, architecture, documents, and secret rituals in this novel are accurate.”1 Thus begins one of the best-selling and most controversial books in history. Dan Brown’s action-thriller became a cultural phenomenon and triggered a firestorm . It is not only a depressing—but a dangerous notion to hold, that weak faith, being still true faith; and little grace, which is still real grace—that those who have but small measures of either will reach heaven as certainly, and rise as high in heaven, as those who make greater attainments.
We wanted to be moral according to society's standards, to raise our children to be good citizens, and to be responsible in terms of finances. Arguments emerge over apparently trivial issues, the elders told us, because they really reflect underlying values.
Whether the wife purchases an expensive golf club or the husband a new electronic toy is not the core issue in what can become a monumental fight, but rather the deeper attitude toward what money means and whether the financial interests of the couple are more important than indulging an individual whim.
The elders urge people committing to a relationship to ask the question: Do we believe the same things in life are important? If problems develop in the relationship, these experts on long marriages say that value differences are likely to be at the heart of the problem.
Never Expect Your Partner to Change after Marriage What about taking a leap of faith on the marriage under the assumption that you can change your partner after you're married?
The elders were as clear about this possibility as can be: According to them, entering into a marriage with the goal of changing one's partner is a fool's errand. Rosie Eberle, 80 and happily married for 56 years, had a blunt comment to make about the entering into a marriage expecting to change one's partner: For heaven's sake, don't say "Oh, he's this way now but he won't always be like that.
So don't marry someone and then think, "Oh, well he'll change.Death, it seems, is no longer Shakespeare’s undiscovered country, the one “from whose bourn no traveller returns.” Not according to contemporary bestseller lists.
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If they fall, almost always they die. This is a sprawling, very varied section. According to prosperity theology, faith is not a God-granted, God-centered act of the will. Rather, it is a humanly wrought spiritual force, directed at God.
Indeed, any theology that views faith chiefly as a means to material gain rather than justification before God must be judged inadequate at best. Thus at Venice the College, even in the absence of the Doge, is called "Most Serene Prince." The Palatine of Posen, father of the King of Poland, Duke of Lorraine.
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